03/05, 2007
Mrs. Kelly’s Playhouse
I was a no safeword guy myself. Until something unforeseen happened.
Mrs. Kelly writes of the birth of her husband’s safeword:
Up until about two weeks ago this worked fine. Two weeks ago we were doing some kind of bondage. To be honest, I am not 100% what it was. I think it was a basic four-point restraint to the bed posts and he was in a leather mask. It wasn’t anything unusual or special (kind of average stuff for us) and I wasn’t particularly into the whole thing (which is why I don’t really remember). But I’ve found that when I am not in the mood to play, I often get the most pleasure out of playing. Something about whipping a whimpering sub can really brighten my mood.
Anyway, somewhere in all this poormissy started whining. He said something like, “I don’t think I can emotionally handle this right now (afterward he denied that he said anything like this at all and still does).” I guess because I wasn’t in the mood and because of the words he used, I decided to stop the scene. I set him loose rather abruptly and told him to clean the kitchen for the next hour without speaking. He did this and then kneeled near me and told me he was finished. He told me he thought we should finish what we started. I told him that he’d missed out and he’d just have to deal with it. Then, I went to pick up our daughter from preschool.
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In retrospect, poormissy said he wasn’t really all that freaked out when he started whining. He claimed never to have said anything about his emotional state and said he was really surprised and upset when I ended the scene. He felt really disappointed in himself for causing the problem but also I think was angry at me for having “given up” on him so easily (which I admit now I did).
So after lots of discussion we decided that if we had a safe-word, it would be more clear when missy was actually in distress. We chose “eggplant” as our safe word. I felt it was strange enough to stand out in a scene.
