Matisse – likeable, lucid and often funny – is probably the best known blogger openly involved in BDSM.
Occupation: Professional dominatrix. That means people come to me and I do BDSM scenes with them, and they pay me for this. I do not have sex with them, although I consider pro domming to be part of the sex industry in general and I call myself a sex worker. And I’ve certainly had sex for money in my time, so there’s no moral judgment about it.
But, in general, if you do sex with pro dom work, the submissive loses his focus and it blurs the power dynamic, especially in a male submissive/female dominant situation. Plus there’s that small matter of it being illegal, but that’s really not the main reason, since it’s also extremely rare for me to have sex with submissives in a personal (meaning: they aren’t paying me) situation.
I’ve worked in the sex industry since I was 18, so I have almost no frame of reference for any job that doesn’t involve someone taking off their clothes. I understand that it wouldn’t suit everyone, but it’s been an excellent career choice for me.
Originally posted 2006-04-11 07:30:46. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
