I’d come to admire Sadiste from scattered comments she’d left on various blogs. It was only today that I discovered she has one of her own.
Here she deals with that eternal question: how should a submissive guy introduce himself to a dominant woman:
The ones I personally like best introduce themselves as people first, and as submissives/masochists second. This indicates to me that they (probably) realize that I am a person first, with a job and lots of vanilla friends and family that simply cannot know anything about the delicious pain noises that I cause you to make… at all. Ever. I need to know that you can pass in the vanilla world should I ever decide to introduce you to my family. And beyond that, I’m just not a very casual player; I need to know you before I know if I want to beat you. (Once upon a time I was more casual about my sex life. That was before I nearly fucked a Republican. Scary, huh?)
Sadiste
A femdom fiction blog:
Shawna looked at him coolly. “What the fuck do you think it is?” she snapped. “Dave is my slave. He’s being trained for ass service in a chair.”
Slave? Ass service?
Jim looked back to the poor guy in the closet.
“He’s, like, all covered in welts.”
“Well, of course he is. I whip him every day. I whip him really hard. It’s great exercise.”
“Exercise?” Jim was at a loss for words.
“Look, Jimmy, don’t worry about Dave. He’s a happy slave. He gets my ass on his face every night. It’s what he wants. And once in a while I make him come too.”
Eosuchus’s Weblog
Aarkey writes with terrible eloquence:
See, the thing is that when I go for lengths of time without domination, I can feel neglected, and even more importantly - unloved. It starts to fester inside my heart and I become frustrated, antsy, disappointed, bitter. And that sours and biases everything in my relationship. I continue to be gentle and generous outwardly, although over time I feel that I have been taken advantage of. I am doing my best to demonstrate my love, being as responsive and considerate to every want and need expressed, yet my one need which I’ve mentioned many times is not being returned. I don’t need to “swing from the chandeliers” every day,Virgina Slims, lipstick smears, black gloves… and what exactly does fetish mean to you? or even every week. Yes, I do sometimes need the whole 9 yards of BD/SM. But most of the time, in the day to day life, a few simple words, a few minutes of attention to this side of my person… a brief bit of teasing, of bondage, or direct instruction, a moment of role-play… the feeling of domination & submission - just a slight push, I can roll down the hill from there. That’s all I need, it seems simple to me. And yet… more often than not… nothing. Not until I feel almost dead inside, until the festering has grown severe.
Aarkeybabble
A married submissive man shares a happy evening:
the door to our bedroom is locked, and i am left tied to the bed, completely naked except my cb-6000 encased around my genitals. Mistress walks into the room, wearing a fresh pair of black panties holding a riding crop, looking at me with that same look she did earlier in the night. i knew there was trouble, and i knew i wasn’t getting let out of my cb-6000. Needless to say she tortured me, my nipples were scratched, pulled, and beaten. The various floggers, canes and crops continued to hit hard on my legs and chest. i was a wreck, i was in a submissive state and was submerged in a space that i rarely get into.
Ode to My Mistress
How to practice a 24/7 F/m lifestyle without perturbing the neighbors:
I was able to apply some fun loving discipline without anyone being the wiser this afternoon. I came up behind him while he was heating lunch & surprised him when I grabbed his tits and twisted. J You can be certain that I got his attention. But that attention was short lived I had to be firm later on in the evening. He just would not listen … so I took off my slipper and had to slap his leg SMACK SMACK to get his attention again … I did get his attention again!! I believe in striking when the iron is hot. This sometimes means that I use whatever is in my hand or close to it. But I usually do it out of the line of sight of others yet if I can get away with it in front of someone I will if I can make it look playful to the outsider.
Leather’n’ Pearls
Fighting agains stereotypes and fallacies and discussing:
- Meeting People Online
- Getting Started
- Long Distance Relationships
- S&M
- Psychology of Dominance and Submission
- Femdom Stories
- Fetishes
And more at: Fetish Lore
I like undertheboot’s writing:
The weird thing is, it doesn’t bother me. I’ve commented again and again that somehow, the paradoxes inherent in the BDSM lifestyle don’t bother me. Somehow, I can get through the day working hard at being the best, being a leader, being respected, and then come home — or at least visit home — and be humiliated and subjugated and dominated.
Under the Boot
