In Chastity Lifestyle’s Chastity Devices Forum a man shares the profound pleasure that he as found in orgasm denial:
In several past relationships I have been with women who taught me to take my pleasure solely in giving them pleasure. It meant that if they wanted a simple “vanilla” backrub, if that was what they would enjoy, then that would be what I wanted to give them. Everything we did was strictly for their pleasure and not as a prelude to my orgasm.
You cannot imagine the pleasure I learned to experience through focusing on them and their desires. It helped me to live in the present – to focus on every sensation she and I experienced in my giving her a backrub – the warmth of my hands gliding over her skin, the subtle feminine curves of her back and hips, the softness of the skin on her thighs…. I was able to focus on these because there was no orgasm for me, and so the pleasure of giving her that backrub was going to be the only pleasure permitted to me. And when she permitted me to touch her intimately, we were both completely present in the experience of her pleasure. Even when the belt was removed and I was permitted to enter her, it was always with the understanding that my orgasm was not permitted. And so as a result, we could both focus on her enjoyment of that, and of her response to every touch and thrust. The frustration of feeling her orgasm, whether from my touching her or from being inside her or using my mouth, and not being permitted an orgasm of my own, was incredible, and yet it also reinforced her message that my pleasure was to be found solely in her pleasure. It also reinforced the message that my cock and balls, even my pleasure, belonged to her and not to me.
Through these teachings, I was trained to ache for every kiss and every caress. Many nights I would be driving home from work and hoping that she would permit me to touch her in any way – I would be praying that she would at least let me give her a vanilla backrub, because I so longed to be able to feel her skin and to know her pleasure, even from a vanilla form of intimacy.
These are some of the amazing things that happen when a woman takes control of her lover’s orgasm, denies him, and teaches him that his only source of pleasure is the smile in her eyes and the enjoyment of her pleasures.
Originally posted 2006-07-22 15:13:18. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
