A women new to erotic dominance asks for advice on a forum:
I’ve done some research online, in books, etc. and have a copy of The Loving Dominant, but any guidance on how to grow into this role would be appreciated.
Unfortunately, my relationship is long-distance, so any suggestions on how to effectively Dominate from afar would be appreciated as well. I will browse around the forums, too, to see if I can find anything there.
A reply:
I am {tinkle} a humble but jolly harem slave. It is so pleasing to hear of your aspirations to full dominatrix.
If I can be of any assistance in your quest to control from afar please ask. I have many years of experience and training to assist you. My mistress the sultana is thorough if not strict
Yours grovellingly
She replies to say that personal experiences are fine.
He comes back to say:
Salutations, oh most gracious mistress,
Tinkle is is so humbled and grovelling to be honoured by reply oh most distant Madam. Tinkle,alas, before his fate with the gelding knife was a saucy and disobedient boy.
Now in the harem I have learnt the error of my licenscious ways. I am now an attentaive page to the ladies of my master the Sultan.
It would delight if Mistress could further instruct me in the ways of matriarchial obedience.
head bowed, your very very obedient Tinkle
He may be groveling but is too giddy wallowing in his role to help her. Except perhaps to warn her how useless F/m forums can be.
In her introduction the woman noted:
I’m pretty new at this, but I have my first sub. He’s wonderful, and I adore him… he is also very obediant, and doesn’t question my need to grow into the role. I am not poly, though, so please refrain from any relationship requests you might have…
Mark may have a reading comprehension problem:
Hello madam… I’m Mark and i’m being dominated by my most wonderful madam – Mistress Reanna… I would like to be dominated by you madam.. i wanna be used by you madam, for all your wishes fantasies and pleasures… my yahoo id is (deleted)… Hoping to be accepted as your slave madam… Thank you for letting this slave reply to the mistress’s posts…
Just as long as being used doesn’t entail being useful.
I don’t note my contribution to the thread to pat myself on the back. While I don’t have the psychological makeup for long distance D/s there’s some generic advice that is easy to give:
I think many people use webcams. That way you can see an order obeyed even when away.
- Common are having him wear a chastity device or masturbating on demand (whatever works best for you).
- If you left a pair of your shoes with him, kissing or licking them.
- If into pain play having him put on nipple clamps and tighten them as you watch.
- Rituals: beginning or ending the day by kneeling before a photo of you. Perhaps reciting an affirmation you’ve given him.
- Have him write on a schedule – either by email or on a blog – of his feelings and fantasies about being submissive to you.
