Selmer explains how his wife keeps score:
The way it works for us. The stones were placed on one side of a nice carved wooden tray. At any time that she decides I merit it, she moves a rock over to the bad side. When a rock is moved to the bad side it represents at least one more day before I will be allowed an orgasm. If I piss her off she might move over a handful of stones. The green stone means that I am in big trouble and that a serious punishment will result. The “O†stone means that an orgasm is in my near future.
Orgasm denial is a major component in our female lead relationship. My wife has determined that I am at my best behavior when I have had at least five days since my last orgasms (I begin to fall apart at eight days – but that will soon change, I am told). After every orgasm, five or six stones are automatically moved over to the right side of the tray. If I am real good, one of these stones might be moved over to the good side. I am always expected to be good and finish my chores so it really has to be special to get a stone moved to the good side. If lover feels that she is really out line she may even give me the “O†stone.
One of the great benefits of this plan is that any gripe can in a sense be dealt with immediately. With kids and jobs and so on, it was often quite a while before things could be properly dealt with and tensions sometimes grew. It also stops an argument very quickly, when she starts moving stones and says if I would like her to keep going then just keep it up. If I am already at my five or six day mark the last thing that I want to have happen is for a hand full of stones to be moved over. It is also somewhat silent – if she is pissed off – she doesn’t have to say a thing and can avoid having us escalate into harsh words or actions. She never wants to beat me when she is upset. She just slides the stones over and we talk later at a calmer moment. I can see what she is up to and know that it is in my best interest to change or correct my behavior immediately.
