Hubby M shares a confusion common to many submissive persons:
I think one of the problems with this kind of sex is that it’s hard for me to communicate my wants without sounding like I’m telling her what to do. It has to come from her. For instance, I see ordinary objects all the time that I think would be great tools to spank me with. I brought the wooden spoon into it and so far, it’s all she’s used. If I tell her I want the belt, or a hair brush, and she uses it, It’ll lose some of the appeal, because she’ll just be carrying out my will. These are things that are supposed to be unpleasant for me, but I crave it. If I ask for it, it doesn’t seem like a punishment or suffering. It feels like she’s just doing what I asked for. That’s one major reason for this blog, I guess. It’s a way for me to let her know what I want without just telling her and vice versa.
