Hardwired Submissive Man

Strongnsubmissive writes of explaining his submissive needs to his wife:

I just reminded Bella that i was dedicated to this relationship, and to our happiness. She’s still unclear on why the sudden change, but i think she’s welcoming the idea herself as well. I think we both realize, that we’re at a point in our lives, where constantly reaching for that transparent carrot is futile effort. What Bella and i have is special, and if we can somehow deal with this sexual mismatch, this relationship would be close to perfect.

While we were chatting and looking over our shoulder for the boy to return, i did make a point of telling her that i was worried that her own sexual needs just might not be met by me. She seemed less concerned about that than i did.

The truth is, there is sexual attraction between the two of us, despite the obvious problem of D/s and vanilla. Figuring out what our sexual needs are, and how they are going to be met by each other is the obvious challenge. Bella has admitted, that she’s learning more about her own sexual needs and what she thought her needs were 5 years ago, has drastically changed today. I can say the same thing about myself as well. As the two of us begin to figure this out, i’m hoping that the actual needs between us, are closer to a match than they were 10 years ago, when we thought the chance of any match was zero.

I then tried to talk to her about my own sexual needs. I know i must have sounded like an idiot, but i think i managed to get some of my motivation across to her. I told her that it was obvious to me, that i needed D/s in my life to sate my own sexuality. But instead of falling into the obvious pitfalls that we first experienced when we tried this years ago, i told her that she didn’t need to act out the Domme part, just to be herself. I said that it was impossible for me to suppress my submissive feelings, and that i needed to express them in the form of obedient service to her, in a female led relationship.

“If you could live with me Bella, and accept that this expression is something i need to sate my own sexuality, then i think we’d be over a huge hurdle for making this work.”

She smiled, and i think is just entirely happy that quite possibly she and i could remain together forever. She hasn’t openly accepted my invitation to giving this a try, but her actions tell me she’s ready to accept my submission and quite possibly see where this will go.

Hardwired Submissive Man

Originally posted 2006-08-18 12:34:35. Republished by Blog Post Promoter