Bud writes about seeking to establish a FLR:
So, last night turned into an hour long conversation. she still thinks I am trying to manufacture some kinkiness, she recognizes she is “vanilla,” but does not think that is a problem. I agree, it is not a problem, I told her I want her to be the most she can be, this whole lifestyle is about her being just that. I don’t want her to be something she is not, I want to submit to her in all her personal glory, but it does take some action on her part. I told her she just doesn’t understand the whole dynamic of it, she says she does understand and that I just say she doesn’t understand because she is not doing it the way I want her to. Maybe she is right, I really don’t think so, but am trying to reflect personally on my end to try.
