This extract seems to capture very well the confusion and disappointment that many men feel when trying to wives to take power and authority over them:
I’m very busy with work right now and we don’t seem to get to spend much private time together, so for the time being I guess I don’t have to think about it too much. But then I look at my “to do†list and see things that she has added and I see that they are things she could easily do herself. I see the dishwasher that I ran before going to work last night still full of clean plates and the kitchen trashed and piled with all the dirty dishes from last nights dinner and this mornings breakfast. I think to myself, huh, I got about 4 hours of sleep between coming home from work and getting up to watch the kids. She put the kids to bed an hour or so after I left for work last night. Why is the dishwasher full of clean dishes? You see. I’m bitter. I wasn’t bitter before, because I thought that we were in this wife-led-marriage. Well, before I realized it was a wlm, I thought we just didn’t have enough time in our busy lives to do all the cleaning and what not. Then I had my revelation about the nature of our relationship. My wife and I seem to be incredibly happy during this time and the house is cleaner than it’s ever been. Then things start to unfold a bit as I start to worry about the number of my orgasms to her orgasms because I realise that she just doesn’t care. She’d be happy to let nature run it’s course and whoever has an orgasm has an orgasm. Not that she wasn’t enjoying the extra attention, because she was, when she wasn’t feeling pressured by the extra attention.
